It's good to know the basic things you want in a person.
Dating sucks in general, but it’s even worse for women who know what they deserve.
Whenever someone comments on how we’re “too picky,” what they’re really saying is that we should settle for someone, just so we can say we’re in a relationship. We’d rather be alone than in a relationship without real love. We try to be on our best behavior during dates, just in case the man we’re sitting across the table from happens to be our soul mate. Some men are intimidated by strong, independent women who don’t actually need them to survive.
I'm now at the age where wedding invitations and “save the dates” take up the majority of my refrigerator space… While I would have loved to make any one of those contenders a full-fledged boyfriend – like, even make it Facebook and Instagram official – it just didn't happen.
Yes it is fine to have standards..not when you dont even meet those standards yourself!
I see so many girls with poor looks, poor hygeine, poor fitness levels or bad personalities who obsess over the hot/rich guys they can never get and believe they deserve a prince when they themselves are unworthy.
When we come around, they don’t know how to talk to us, or if they even want to talk to us, because they know we aren’t going to let them get away with murder like other girls have.
Society actually criticizes us for having high standards. We won’t leave the house unless our eyeliner is on point and we won’t arrive at a restaurant without topics prepared.
The episode made me think: what is the difference between being way too picky and simply having high standards?
But since my last serious relationship a couple of years ago, there have been several questionable matches, a few horrible first dates and a couple of almosts.
In the mix of men I've dated, I've at least been able to establish some standards regarding what I look for in a partner.
After all, we can’t settle for someone decent when we know that we’re meant to be with someone special. They don’t want to put in the effort to make us feel special or to dress up when we go out to dinner.
That’s one of the many reasons why dating’s the worst for women with high standards. Unfortunately, dating involves a lot of BS’ing around about who’s going to text first and who’s going to initiate the first kiss. We have friends who can pretend that their cheating boyfriends are good guys, but we can’t follow in their footsteps. That’s why our first dates hardly ever lead to second dates. Men are used to women skating around their feelings, which is why they can be a little thrown off when we tell them exactly what we’re looking for.